Tag Archives: relationships

Complaint vs. Criticism from the Gottman Institute

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What is Co-Narcissism?

If you’re having an, “oh great, one more thing to worry about” response to the unfamiliar word “Co-Narcissism,” you’re not alone. I am not a proponent of inventing and loosely wielding new psychological problems, diagnoses, and concerns for people seeking help and understanding through their interpersonal conflicts, low self-esteem, and a myriad of other problems […]

May 21

Three Essential Facts About Feelings

A great, simple, left-brained introduction to the neurobiology of emotions! Worth a watch and further investigation if you are curious. The Theory of Emotion, Robert Plutchik Can’t find the right word to express yourself?  Use these Feeling Words for guidance! And don’t be scared of a dramatically illustrated cartoon image to help you out…

February 14

A Valentine’s Day Must-Watch!

International author, therapist, and speaker Esther Perel always offer a diverse perspective on relationships, sex, and “erotic intelligence” so I was excited to see her featured on the Ted website.  Her Ted Talk, entitled “Esther Perel: The secret to desire in a long-term relationship,” offers a short refresher course on the origins of relationships, attraction, […]

The Therapeutic Alliance

Big thanks to Deborah L. Cabaniss, M.D. for writing this great article!  It deserves a re-blog because it discusses a central and essential element of therapy that is often misunderstood: the relationship between the therapist and client. The Therapeutic Alliance: The Essential Ingredient for Psychotherapy Take care, Elena

What’s the Use in Being Sad?

One of the most common questions asked in therapy is, “why should I be sad when I can be happy?”  There are variations to this question like, “why would I want to focus on my difficult past when I can move forward and not be in pain?”  Or, “I don’t want to suffer anymore.  I […]

Miss Representation

Gratuitous cute baby picture of my niece, who will grow up to be a woman before we know it! I see a lot of women in therapy.  Most of them come to me with ideas about their bodies, minds, personalities, or other various features that are not true.  I usually begin with a discussion of […]

How to Have an Emotionally Supportive Argument

Do you ever have an argument or discussion with your partner and think, ‘I have no idea what to say right now’ or ‘I’m so mad that I can’t even hear you’?  This post is meant to help guide you through a difficult conversation and manage feelings between you and your loved ones.  I will […]