Category Archives: relationships

October 24

Fitting in (or not)

Let me just start by saying I’m a HUGE fan of listening instead of reading if I have the choice.  I love podcasts, audio-books, music, and I probably chose a career that requires listening because it’s how I prefer to spend my days. Don’t get me wrong; reading is very important and is a daily requirement […]

Find Yourself Friday!

The Journey One day you finally knew what you had to do, and began, though the voices around you kept shouting their bad advice— though the whole house began to tremble and you felt the old tug at your ankles. “Mend my life!” each voice cried. But you didn’t stop. You knew what you had […]

Maya Angelou on Life Lessons

In searching for inspiration this morning, I stumbled upon a quote by Maya Angelou, one of my personal heroes.  In an effort to “throw something back,” I’ve shared it today.  This is my reminder that nothing is permanent, to live with an open heart and an open mind, to hug someone every day, and to […]

What’s the Use in Being Sad?

One of the most common questions asked in therapy is, “why should I be sad when I can be happy?”  There are variations to this question like, “why would I want to focus on my difficult past when I can move forward and not be in pain?”  Or, “I don’t want to suffer anymore.  I […]

Happiness Lessons from Grandma

A quick update on the project Days 2, 3, and 4 for those of you who are waiting with baited breath.  On Day 2, Truman bounded onto my abdomen before sunrise, to which I said “noooooo,” rolled over, and went back to sleep.  He’s a fast learner when it’s inconvenient for his humans and he has quickly […]

How to Find the Right Therapist

“How do I find the right therapist?” I am often asked this question and would like to preface my opinions by saying that they are just that – opinions. Therapists are as diverse as their clientele and I presume that all would have something to add to this discussion, or perhaps an entirely opposite perspective. […]

Brené Brown’s TED Talks

Two Must Watch Videos: Brene Brown – The Power of Vulnerability and Listening to Shame I became an official Brene Brown fan when she bravely addressed the seemingly “non-scientific” subject of vulnerability using evidence-based research and her own personal experience during the 2011 Ted Talks with “The Power of Vulnerability.”  My appreciation for her has only intensified […]

Miss Representation

Gratuitous cute baby picture of my niece, who will grow up to be a woman before we know it! I see a lot of women in therapy.  Most of them come to me with ideas about their bodies, minds, personalities, or other various features that are not true.  I usually begin with a discussion of […]

Power, Privilege, and Therapy

Why therapists must be allies and advocates for clients of different races, religions, sexual orientations, sizes, ethnicities, genders, and any other point of diversity. I write this post after an incredibly fulfilling discussion among colleagues about power and privilege in the therapy room.  A colleague bravely disclosed that she feels that she should bring up […]

Parenting from the Inside Out

A great book for those of you who are looking for ways to be a better parent or working out your feelings about the ways in which you were parented. Take care.